The Art of Seduction: Using Romance Book Tropes to Spice Up Your Sex Life with Toys and Positions

• The popular spice of romance novels can actually become your secret weapon to steamy moments with your partner.
• Let your emotions take over with inspiration from enemies to lovers and fake dating tropes. 
• Take a page from a forbidden love romance to add some sexy thrills to your play.
• Renew your intimacy with second chance love and opposites attract themes. 

It doesn’t take a hopeless romantic to be able to enjoy a well-written love story. And although bookworms worth their salt will swear by the healing abilities of a good stroll through the romance section of a bookstore, your favorite authors could offer you much more than a heart-racing bestseller that plagues your daydreams and keeps you up all night. 

Could there be more for you between those covers than a swoon-worthy romance arc and page-turning pleasure? It might be time for your favorite romance tropes to stop existing solely in black and white. Why not let the words fall off the page and spice up your sex life? 

We break it down for you with romantic sex positions and toys inspired by 5 popular romance tropes. So grab your bookmark and dim the lights to start a sexy chapter of your own.

5 Romantic Tropes to Inspire You in the Bedroom

1. Destined for Desire: Enemies to Lovers

Arguably one of the most well-loved tropes, an enemies-to-lovers roleplay scenario could spice up your sex life and bring sizzling fire to your connection with your partner. 

Toy: A vibrating couple’s cock cage or a vibrating wand are both great choices to feed the fiery energy of this trope. While using a wand can let one partner take greater control, a vibrating cock cage is like the much-needed release that pushes both characters towards accepting the heightened attraction between them.

Position: Standing Against the Wall

Let the urgency of unreleased tension spice up your sex life with this ravenously romantic position. Doing it against a wall can create the perfect sense of dominance, with deep eye contact and whispered taunts. This lets you channel the verbal sparring characteristic of your favorite enemies-to-lovers pairings. Make the moment more electric by incorporating some light roleplay and dirty talk. A whispered, “So you think you’re in charge?” mid-thrust can heighten the rivalry vibe.

2. Pretend Until It’s Real: Fake Dating to Real Love

If your sex life needs some spice, this trope is for you. With faux romance that goes from pretense to undeniable passion, it mimics a slow burning flame that’s hard to miss.

Toy: Playing with a feather slapper channels the coy, teasing energy of this trope. It’s perfect for building anticipation and is reminiscent of the hesitant, yet exploratory energy of fake dating tropes in romance books.

Position: Lap Dance

A lap-dance-inspired position can capture the performative and flirty spark of the fake-dating trope. Straddle your partner as they lounge in a chair, touching them teasingly with a feather tickler, gliding slowly over sensitive spots, and building anticipation.

3. Sexy Secrets: Forbidden Romance

This romance book trope thrives on sexy secrets and the thrill of breaking the rules. From clandestine affairs to norm-defying love, a forbidden romance is racy, exciting, and passionate.

Toy: A remote-control vibrator is the ultimate toy to spice up your sex life and live out your forbidden romance fantasies. What could be better than sharing a secret thrill in public or private? Letting your partner control your toy from a distance creates an added layer of anticipation since you don’t know how intensely the vibrations will hit and when you’ll feel them. Keep stealing glances and let your imagination take care of the rest.

Position: Spoonfuls of Sensuality

Spooning is a romantic position for your real life sex fantasy that can spice up how you view this trope. It also works well with a remote-control toy since your partner can whisper sweet nothings while you’re completely at their mercy for the next wave of pleasure.

4. Love Wins: Second Chance Romance

This trope may not apply to you and your present partner, but the fantasy of rekindled love can still spice up your sex life. It’s a tender scenario that fits really well for long-distance couples since it focuses on connecting deeply and rebuilding intimacy with renewed wisdom.

Toy: What better way to toast a reunion of soulmates than with toys for couples? Using a couple’s vibrator fosters closeness and enhances the experience of shared pleasure. A toy that will stimulate both of you simultaneously can also help you stay in sync.

Position: Missionary 

Missionary lets you look into each other’s eyes and wordlessly say more than you could otherwise. It’s sexy, intimate, and stimulates both partners. The best part? A couple’s vibrator or cock ring would spice up your sex life, fitting seamlessly into this romantic position to up the ante and deliver exponentially higher pleasure with every thrust. You could even use sex furniture for deeper penetration and support. 

5. Grumpy Meets Sunshine: Opposites Attract

This endearing romance book trope puts a broody partner together with an upbeat one for a balanced and wholesome pairing. It’s well-loved for the focus on connection and how love can melt your walls and open you up to new experiences.

Toy: Use any toy you like with a massage oil candle that sets a comforting tone to the evening with warm, soft glowing lighting. 

Position: Seated Embrace

Since this trope prioritizes closeness, the seated embrace is ideal for creating a tender, loving moment. It’s playful and offers potential for more intense action to spice up your sex life. Sit facing your partner on their lap and lead them through slow kisses and sensuous motions with some massage oil.

Romance and reality aren’t too far off from each other, and it’s easy to make even the simplest exchanges with your partner more meaningful by paying attention to the details and communicating clearly. These 5 tropes are typically set in fictitious stories but the love and passion you see on the page can find its way to you and spice up your sex life. All you have to do is take the leap!