The Tease and Please Handbook: Edging 101 

What is Edging?

Ever been in the heat of the moment with your favorite toy, only for it to run out of battery just before the big O? Talk about a buzzkill. But fear not—edging is like that, only with a whole lot more intention and a lot less frustration! Edging is the practice of bringing yourself to the edge of orgasm and then pausing before crossing that threshold. 

It’s a delightful way to explore and extend your pleasure, allowing you to build anticipation and intensity. By slowing down and taking your time, you can enhance your awareness of your body’s responses, deepen your connection to your own desires, and even improve sexual stamina. Whether practiced solo or with a partner, edging can transform your experience, making each moment more vibrant and rewarding—because in the realm of sexual wellness, the journey is just as important as the destination! 

Benefits of Edging

Edging for pleasure isn’t just about the physical; it cranks up your mental pleasure to a whole new level and can be a fantastic way to melt away stress! And let’s be real—who doesn’t need a little stress release these days? So, grab your favorite toy and get ready, because here are some other benefits that’ll have you saying ‘yes, please!’ 

Enhanced Pleasure and Intensity

Edging can increase your overall sexual pleasure. The drawn-out teasing makes your body want it more and more and can cause the sensations to feel more intense. Not only that, but all that built up pressure and pent-up pleasure must get released at some point, so when you finally allow yourself to let go, that orgasm will have new levels of intensities. These increases in intensity can enhance your sexual experience by bringing your sense of pleasure higher. 

Increased Control and Longevity 

Edging is a stop-and-go pleasure. But those pleasure pauses allow you to be more aware of your arousal levels, letting you control your arousal more. Being pleasure mindful can lead to improved sexual performance with knowing what your, or your partners, thresholds are. This also contributes to prolonged sexual activity and longevity by building sexual stamina. Climax control allows you to extend the duration of sexual experiences, even if you are not currently trying to edge. You will be more aware of the sensations and know when to prolong the pleasure with orgasm control. 

Improved Intimacy and Sensations 

Many people struggle with a mental block when it comes to reaching an orgasm. The pressure of “needing” to have an orgasm is enough to make it harder to reach climax, or sometimes can even be as serious as anorgasmia or orgasmic dysfunction. When it comes to edging though – there is no pressure or rush to climax because the whole point is to NOT orgasm! Edging techniques are all about exploring different sensations of what makes you feel good. So, sitting back and just enjoying the pleasurable massage is encouraged! When exploring these different sensual practices, you can foster a deeper emotional connection between you and your partner through shared experiences and extended pleasure. Or, with solo edging, you can find a deeper intimacy with yourself. 

How to Edge

What’s great about edging is there’s not one singular way to do it! Edging can be done with a partner or solo. With or without a toy. One time or 20 times. Edging can be done differently with everyone, or every time you do it! That said, there are some things to keep in mind when just getting started with edging. 

Open Communication

Communication is key when it comes to edging, especially if you’re sharing the experience with a partner. It helps establish boundaries, ensuring that both parties feel comfortable and safe as you explore pleasure together. By openly discussing what feels good, what doesn’t, and when to slow down or ramp up the intensity, you create a space of trust and intimacy. This dialogue not only enhances the experience but also allows you to better understand each other’s desires and limits. Plus, let’s be honest—sharing your excitement and reactions in real time can add an extra layer of thrill, making the whole experience even more enjoyable! 

Explore Desires

Exploring desires is a key factor in the art of edging! Edging and orgasms help you understand what your body wants. Engaging in this practice allows you to connect more deeply and understand what truly brings you or your partner pleasure. By experimenting with different sensations, techniques, and fantasies during edging, you can identify what feels pleasurable and what doesn’t, helping to dismantle the mental blocks that may contribute to anorgasmia. This journey of self-discovery fosters confidence and relaxation, two key components in overcoming barriers to orgasm. Additionally, sharing this exploration with a partner can enhance communication and intimacy, creating a supportive environment where both individuals feel safe to express their needs and desires. Ultimately, embracing your desires through edging can be a transformative step toward improved sexual health and a more fulfilling sexual experience. 

Make It What You Want!

Like mentioned before, edging can be whatever you make it! Discover new sensations, temperature play, different arousal points, fantasies, and orgasm intensities. Below are some different toys to give you different ideas on what to explore with yourself, or with a partner the next time you edge!